Facing the New Year unresolved

Dear Samantha,

I don’t know about all this New Year’s resolution stuff.  I for one, I am least likely to run out and sign up for a gym membership on January first.   I am not going to promise to write every day, or swear off chocolate (heaven help us, no one should ever do that).  I am not going to vow not to have any temper-tantrums during home school grammar.

You see, I spent the first 10 years of my young life being uber responsible and commitment frantic.   Really, I was too responsible for a tween/teen/young adult.  I was on the honor roll, and graduated in the top 5 in my class.  I organized a group of nearly 100 high-schoolers each year for cancer fundraising.  I opened an IRA when I was 19 and despite running out of money for food here and there, I managed to put $200/month into the account.  I got a great job out of college, bought a house, and continued making predictably responsible choices.   I was 24, and I was all burnt out on being responsible, planning ahead, following through.  blog

It was time for an intervention, but what life had planned, I could never have guessed.   That summer, your dad and I found out we were expecting YOU!    ….Uh, unexpectedly.   Over the next three years, you, my adorable infant/toddler/preschooler, beat the type A right out of me.  I was inexperienced at all things domestic, sleep deprived, and in over my head.  I missed an occasional meeting, was late almost everywhere, failed to return phone calls, and even lost a few friendships because I just wasn’t the same person anymore.  I couldn’t keep up simple friendly commitments let alone complicated professional ones.  But without my best laid plans to depend on, I received a remarkable gift.  I began to discover the joy of living in the moment.  Living. in. the. moment.  Still working on that one daily, as you know.

So my live-in-the-moment encouragement to you is this: unless the ad in the sidebar this January is blognewyearsencouraging you to keep your money, take it easy, smell the roses, and enjoy what you have, perhaps you should resolve to ignore it.  You are amazing.  You do not need to redecorate your house or workout at the new gym.  You should only join that volunteer committee if it makes your heart light up.  Only jog the extra mile if it makes you feel more alive!  Or best of all, you can just be happy with you, and in so doing, free other people to be happy with themselves.  Your life is already abundant.

Cheers to the unexpected adventure THIS year holds for us!   I love learning about life with you; you have and always will be my favorite life lesson teacher.

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Your blissfully unresolved Mommy

“A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment?”  Ecclesiastes 2:24-25


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